Carmela Soprano (2024)

Carmela Soprano (née DeAngelis, born November 29, 1960), is the wife of mafia boss Tony Soprano. She is also the mother of Meadow Soprano and Anthony Soprano Jr. Carmela's parents are Hugh and Mary DeAngelis.

Biography

Carmela DeAngelis was born in 1960. Little was known about her early life, other than she met Anthony Soprano Senior and began dating him, during high school. While in high school, Carmela wore a letterwoman's jacket, which suggests that she had been involved in sports. As Tony lettered in football, it may have been something in common that brought the pair together.

After finishing high school, it was mentioned by Tony that Carmela had started attending Montclair University, having dreams to be a real estate developer, but ultimately dropped out after getting married to Tony and getting pregnant with Meadow.

Throughout the show's run, Carmela is shown to be a loving mother and supportive wife. However, she is well aware of Tony's position in the Mafia, and while it is rarely talked about openly, Carmela knows where Tony's income really comes from. While she accepts it for what it is, there have been times she struggles with it emotionally and spiritually.

Carmela also is aware that Tony has had extra-marital affairs and while condemning those affairs, she still stays faithful to Tony. Tony's wealth, while coming from illegal gains, provides the kind of lifestyle that Carmela wanted for her children as well as herself. She has admitted on multiple occasions that she has faced the double burden of Tony's adultery as well as that the food on their table and the entire house and its accroutements were paid for with illegal money.

Carmela's relationship with her children is one of the typical American mother/children relationships. Carmela has confrontations with both Meadow and A.J. over issues that many families deal with. Carmela and Meadow have shared a tense relationship with issues concerning Meadow's developing independence and maturing into a grown woman. A.J. also has had some minor conflicts with his mother, but not to the extent that Carmela and Meadow have argued over. Despite the occasional rocky moments she's had with her two children, Carmela always was loving and supportive of Meadow and A.J.

Tony and Carmela's marriage was a complicated one, but while they had their share of fights, there were also tender moments between them. Tony would at times buy expensive gifts for Carmela, but this is shown to be Tony's usual way of keeping Carmela happy at home while he carries on with his affairs outside of the home.

Tony's affairs and the impact they have on his and Carmela's marriage comes to a head in 2003. Tony slept with his ex-girlfriend Irina's cousin Svetlana, and when Irina learns of this, she becomes furious. She calls Tony's home, A.J. answers and she asks to speak to Carmela where she reveals Tony's infidelity not only with herself but also with Svetlana. Carmela initially accuses her of lying and warns her never to call the Soprano residence again, but soon realizes Irina was truthful.

Carmela has a dramatic confrontation with Tony when he arrives home and asks him to leave. Everything is laid out on the table, including Carmela's mutual infatuation with Furio Giunta. Carmela and Furio fell in love with each other, but it never progressed to physical intimacy.

Later that year Tony has a small place of his own. It is during this time that Carmela begins a brief relationship with A.J.'s guidance counselor Robert Wegler, and while their relationship is at first passionate, it quickly deteriorates when Wegler accuses Carmela of using him to sharpen her son's college prospects. Tony never discovers that Carmela had been sleeping with Wegler. She confesses this to Monsignor Philip, who reprimands her for adultery. While Father Phil does not condone Tony's past affairs, he makes it clear that two wrongs do not make a right. He asks that Carmela do penance by doing something nice for Tony. Some time later, Tony moves back in with Carmela.

After this, Carmela and Tony's life seems to go back to normal until Tony is nearly killed by Corrado Soprano, Jr.. It is at this point that Carmela's love for Tony is visibly expressed. She watches over him constantly while he is in the hospital and despite all of the negative things that she and Tony have been through together, she takes care of him and loves him despite all of that.

After Tony pulls out of the coma and begins to convalesce, Carmela continues to care for him and help him through his recovery process. Her devotion to him even makes a surprising, if temporary, change in Tony: during a meeting with the attractive real estate agent Julianna Skiff at her apartment, Tony has an opportunity to sleep with her, but opts not to and walks away, something he would not have done in prior years. However, Tony is soon back to cheating on Carmela again.

In the episode "Chasing It", Tony becomes quite agitated about his money problems between his gambling and his debt to Hesh, and acts downright vicious towards Carmela for not investing her Spec House money to a match bet, leaving Carmela shaken. Later, Tony apologizes and starts investing the spec house. While this seemed to be a way to mend fences with his wife, in actuality Tony had been nervous about Carmela's constant questioning about the disappearance of Adriana La Cerva and how Liz La Cerva had become a slovenly, broken woman.

Appearance

Trivia

• Carmela has made more appearances than any other character with the exception of Tony. "Where's Johnny?" is the only episode where she isn't present.